new parents

Spring at Recess

I think we can all agree that being a parent is tough no matter how you slice it. It's sweet, and cuddly and rewarding...but it's also really trying at times. We're here to make it a little bit easier at Recess Collective.

Come hang out with us!

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COMING UP this Season for Members:

- Intergenerational Playdates

- Dance Party with Charity Kahn

- Family Playspace Yoga

- Coworking + Childcare

Every week - Playspace Activities

Free for members!

FAMILY YOGA Mondays at 11am (ages 1-4) and Thursdays at 4:30pm (ages 1-4)

NEW PARENT GROUP Mondays noon (0-12mo) - Kelsey from Parentline

SENSORY PLAY (rotating activities from play doh, kinetic sand, oobleck, etc). 

  • Tuesdays at 4:30

  • Thursdays at 10:30

  • Fridays at 10:30

  • Saturdays at 11:30

  • Sundays at 10:30

March Special Events

Special Musical Guest, Charity Kahn (of Charity and the JAM Band). SAVE THE DATE March 18, 10am

Intergenerational Play dates - Friday 3/22 at 11am. Friday 3/29 at 4:30pm.

Coworking and childcare - Starting 3/30. Tuesdays 3-5pm and Fridays 1-5pm. Email to reserve your spot

Pilates for Grown ups Tuesdays at 1pm. Baby and Me Pilates 2pm. Open to non-members too!

Weekend Family Yoga Class - April 7

Looking forward to seeing you and joining in on the fun!

Not a member yet? Join today!

Postpartum Resources

Taking Care of New Mamas

With all of the excitement built up around welcoming a new baby into the world, it can be surprising to know that the most common complications of childbirth are perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, including postpartum depression.

Whether you are going through stress, adjustment to parenting, Baby Blues, or pregnancy or postpartum depression/anxiety, below are some helpful tools and resources.


There are several different types of mental illness related to childbirth, with different symptoms and risks.

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It can be confusing because "postpartum depression" is often used as an umbrella term to cover many different conditions that can occur during pregnancy or postpartum. It is possible for women to have symptoms such as panic and anxiety, obsessive intrusive thoughts, anger, and mania, without primary depression.

If a mom has a major Postpartum Depression with no psychotic features, she does not have delusional thinking, although she might have distorted negative views of herself or her life due to her depression. Rather than being at risk of hurting others, a severely depressed or anxious mom without proper support and information can be at risk of suicide because she does not realize that she will recover. She is likely to fear that she is not a good mother, and myths and mistaken descriptions of postpartum depression add to her fear and resulting risk. There is a difference between psychosis, where there is a real break from reality, and depression or anxiety, in which the woman is in distress but in touch with reality. An informed medical professional can and should assess whether a woman is depressed, anxious, or psychotic.

Additionally, the terms “baby blues” and “postpartum depression” are not interchangeable. Baby blues is not a perinatal mood or anxiety disorder. It is a normal hormonal adjustment period after birth that usually resolves naturally within 3 weeks postpartum.

-http://www.postpartum.net/about-psi/overview/

If you are a mom who needs help, here are some key emergency resources:

National Crisis Text Hotline:

  • Text HOME to 741741 from anywhere in the USA, anytime, about any type of crisis.

National Suicide Prevention Hotline and Website

  • 1-800-273-8255

  • www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org Call for yourself or someone you care about; free and confidential; network of more than 140 crisis centers nationwide; available 24/7

Call PSI’s free Helpline, available in English and Spanish. 1.800.944.4773. They also have coordinators for Dads, Military FamiliesSpanish-speaking families, and Arabic-speaking Families 


Resource Library

  • Postpartum Progress, a widely read blog addressing issues surrounding motherhood and perinatal mood concerns www.postpartumprogress.com


Related Readings

A Mother is Born, Gina Hassan, PhD http://birthways.org/tag/postpartum-the-fourth-trimester

Postpartum Recession, Jessica Zucker, PhD
http://www.pbs.org/thisemotionallife/blogs/postpartum-recession

Importance of self-care & self-care techniques. Incorporating Mindfulness Into Motherhood
Cassandra Vieten, PhD
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mindful-motherhood/201005/incorporating-mindfulness-motherhood

The "Good Enough Mother". Self-Care, relaxation skills and stress management

Lessons From My Daughter, Juli Fraga, PsyD
http://www.theconversation.tv/parenting/lessons-from-my-daughter-1/

The New Nest: From Partners to Parents. Communication with Partners/Family members: Creative ways to find time for couple/partner connection

Emotional Aspects of Parenting, Showing CARE, Juli Fraga, PsyD & Melissa Whippo, LCSW

Breastfeeding Concerns & Returning to Work. "A Second Chance at Breastfeeding" by Kim Simon: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kim-simon/a-second-chance-at-breastfeeding_b_3041794.html

"Six Tips for Dealing with Your Partner Returning to Work After Baby" by the Stir: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/the-stir/6-tips-for-dealing-with_b_2972742.html

Additional Articles about the Motherhood Journey:

Books:

Becoming the Parent You Want To Be, Laura Davis & Janis Keyser

Beyond the Blues: Understanding and Treating Prenatal and Postpartum Depression & Anxiety, Shoshana Bennet, PhD & Pec Indman, EdD, MFT

The Birth of a Mother: How the Motherhood Experience Changes You Forever, Daniel Stern, MD

Mindful Birthing, Nancy Bardacke, CNM

Mothering Without a Map, Kathryn Black

Parenting From the Inside Out, Daniel Siegel, MD & Mary Hartzell, MEd

iPhone/Smartphone Application:

Mindful Pregnancy App developed by Nancy Bardacke, CNM from the UCSF Osher Center.

Caring for your newborn, from the moment you meet them

Newborn Care Class

Join us and learn how to care for your newborn from those very first moments after birth, so that you can enter this new phase of your life confident and ready to begin!

An experiential class, each member in our intimate group setting will receive personalized instruction and hands-on training in how to care for their new baby. Members will leave feeling more familiar with newborn qualities and behaviors, and ready to tailor their new-found skills to their own newborn's unique needs.

In this thorough 4 hour Newborn Care class participants will learn:

  • Interpreting baby's cues
  • Cord care & newborn health
  • Sleep patterns & what to expect
  • What to expect immediately after the birth
  • Tummy time, baby wearing & kangaroo care
  • Jaundice and other common newborn conditions
  • Choosing a pediatrician & knowing when to call them
  • When to feed the baby & how to know they're getting enough
  • Supplies for bathing, diapering, nail trimming, skin care & more
  • How to bond more deeply, improve your sleep & learn to trust your parenting instincts


... And will receive hands-on instruction in:

  • Soothing
  • Swaddling
  • Diapering (cloth, compostable & disposable)
  • Holding baby & transferring them person to person
  • Bathing, nail trimming, the Colic Dance & other skills
  • lothing (what to buy, how to wash it and what to bring the baby home in!)


If the birthing parent is partnered, both parents are strongly encouraged to attend.

 

ABOUT THE INSTRUCTOR:  Rebecca (Plum) Elowen, LM, CPM, IBCLC is a Midwife and Lactation Consultant who offers preconception, prenatal and postpartum midwifery care, lactation consultation, support groups, fertility support, and education in newborn care, breastfeeding and sibling preparation in SF, Marin, Sonoma and the East Bay. She strives always to uphold the midwifery model of care, offering information and empowerment, so that her clients can look back on their accomplishments with pride and a deeper sense of their own true power and wisdom. Rebecca received a B.A. in Psychology (with a emphasis on parent-infant attachment and bonding) from Mills College in 1999, became a Birth and Postpartum Doula in 2001, and became a Licensed & Certified Professional Midwife in 2010. In 2013 she became an International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, and in 2018 was trained in Infant Craniosacral Therapy.  Rebecca has taught classes in newborn care, postpartum preparation, childbirth and sibling preparation, and breastfeeding at Carmel Blue, CPMC, Kaiser, Natural Resources, and privately since 2003, and has been facilitating various support groups for new parents since 2007.

Navigate your options & design the birth you envision

Welcoming a baby is a time of transition and transformation that is likely to be filled with joy and challenge. It is also a time of decision-making for yourself and your baby, in a sea of opinions and advice from friends, family, and experts.  This class is designed to give you the information you need to plan for a birth that matches your ideals.   

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The intersection of intelligence, extremely proficient communication, empathy (incredible awareness of others as individuals) and experience, make her a fantastic guide for any couple preparing to meet their baby. She is inclusive in her topics and presents a range of childbirthing options without judgement, if a leaning towards natural strategies, and one takes away that she has long witnessed women in their “power” via childbirth.
— Rachel S., San Francisco

About the Class 

Gents (if any are reading, if not, then tell your husbands ladies), I’ll be the first to admit that I was dragged kicking and screaming to that class. Two-days, four hours each session, and over the weekend no less! That said, I can’t properly express how well served I was, in retrospect, by having attended. It was relaxed, interesting, and really did provide the two of us with the information we needed in the run up to our son’s birth without (and this is key) overwhelming us. I would have been **absolutely** clueless at the hospital had I skipped that one.
— Wilson R, SF

Holistic Childbirth Prep workshops are designed to empower, explore and celebrate the many ways families choose to give birth and create family. This essential workshop is designed to demystify birth while guiding class participants to discover personal beliefs around pregnancy, partnership, birth, and parenthood, which will allow for a truly holistic childbirth experience. Class is designed to meet the needs of families birthing at birth centers, in their homes, at the hospital, or those who haven’t decided yet. This class is relevant to parents having their first, second or third child, depending on the needs of the family. 

In the one day Childbirth Education class with Kelly Gray, we will practice and review the following techniques and information:

• Love and Relaxation: Guided relaxation and the hormones of labor
Hormones are the bridge between the mind-body connection. They allow us to feel emotions and trigger physical responses to our environment and internal thought process. By understanding the hormones of labor, we can begin to understand how our connection to ourselves, our partner, our environment and our birth team will have a dramatic affect on our ability to birth from a place of safety. We'll practice guided relaxation while being informed about why it works beyond just feeling good. 

• Spinning Baby: The role of the baby, optimal fetal positioning, and troubleshooting through birth
One of the most important things we can do to encourage labor naturally and decrease interventions is to create more space in our uterus for the baby to align into the optimal fetal position. In class we will review optimal fetal positioning, exercises and yoga positions for before and during labor, and interventions that may impede optimal positioning and how to troubleshoot positioning when interventions are necessary. 

• Moaning and Moving: Evidence based healthy birth practices, from vocalizations to opening the pelvic floor
From understanding the sounds and positions we turn to during labor to release tension, families can benefit from creating body memories of what empowered birth may sound and feel like. 

• The Landscape of Labor: Understanding the emotional and physiological process of birthing your baby
In addition to myth-busting the textbook stages of labor,  we will have a fuller conversation about the non-linear landscape of labor,  how to support birth as it unfolds, and tools for working with each valley, peak and summit, from a physiological, emotional, and logistical viewpoint. 

• The Role of the Partner: Creating Safety
Partner support is a central focus of class. Birth partners (life partners, family member or trusted friend) will learn how to intuit the woman's needs, engage in the experience, and create an environment that feels safe, protected and conducive to birthing. We will review verbal and non-verbal communication skills, birth room etiquette, and the art of observing birth.  

• Being in Birth: Massage, Acupressure, Positions, Vocalizations, and Breathing Techniques
We will review the art of touch, breath and saying yes to birth. Partners will have a chance to hold, massage and practice pressure points that will assist in getting labor going naturally while creating counter pressure along the hips. 

• Advocacy and Collaboration: Positive Communication Skills with Providers
Class participants will walk away with the terms and phrases most used in the birth room so that they can have informed conversations with their providers. We will review strategies for collaboration, advocacy and informed consent. 

• Understanding Interventions
Most people can agree that safety is paramount to birth, and that the mother's experience is not separate from healthy outcomes but rather an integral aspect to mental and physical health during the childbearing years. We will review common interventions through an evidence based care perspective. By linking our conversation around advocacy and collaboration with providers,  we start to answer questions around necessity of interventions. We will build a toolkit  for decreasing unnecessary interventions, increasing vaginal birth outcomes, and avoiding cesareans. In addition, we will review tools for maximizing positive outcomes when interventions are necessary and review natural counterparts, as well as protecting the micro biome and the breastfeeding relationship. 

• Watching, Hearing, Knowing: Empowered Birth Videos
We will watch uncensored videos of families having empowered births. 

• After-Birth
We will review the sacred hours after birth and discuss how our choices during birth impact breastfeeding, your infant’s immune system, mother’s recovery, mental health, and hormonal balance. We will review common interventions and support offered after birth. 

Each class is kept to seven couples or less, as this allows for individual and hands-on attention from the instructor while allowing for community building with other expanding families. We encourage participants to bring meals, pillows, snacks and other items that will allow them to get comfortable and relax.

This one-day workshop includes an hour lunch break and lots of movement. Please wear clothing that allows for squatting and access to the lower back for massage practice.

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About the Instructor:  Kelly Gray

Kelly is a mother, educator and community organizer.  When she’s not sitting on a birth ball with a model pelvis in her hand, she’s creating forums to raise awareness and expand access to birthing options in Sonoma County. Kelly has been teaching her popular Holistic Childbirth Prep Workshop for over seven years in the North Bay and Bay Area, and spent several years attending low risk and high risk births in San Francisco, and spent three years as a manager of a birth center in the North Bay running their community education center. She has curated an on-going column about reproductive experiences in SQUAT Birth Journal and has been included in the anthology Birth Work As Care Work.

Kelly's focus on hormones and the mind~body connection, building intimacy between partners, and evidence based care sets her teaching apart from the standard birth class; participants leave feeling excited and confident about birthing their family.  Kelly is passionate about providing  up-to-date information and insights into birth research, support measures, community resources, communicating collaboratively with your providers, and all the powerful dynamics parents face as their children enter this world. Kelly sees the work that she does in helping women and families have empowered births as one part of a life long love letter she is writing to her daughter.